I wrote a blog two months ago called, “Defining your life with numbers.” It discussed how some people focus on numbers all day regarding their weight and how many calories, fat grams, carbs, etc., of what they are eating. I explained how detrimental this can be and how much it fuels an eating disorder. This […]
I am Worthy
This is a powerful phrase: I am worthy. Many times, it is the message I seek to plant in my clients. They deserve to feel empowered and to believe that they are worthy, just as I see them. For those struggling with an eating disorder, the journey towards self-acceptance is not that simple. Believing “I […]
It’s hard to be a vulnerable man
My dad liked to tell the story of being a young man, about 15 years old, and getting into fights. His favorite yarn entailed getting the crap beat out of him by this one particularly tough kid who clocked my dad right in the gut so hard that he doubled over in pain. This gave […]
What is a ‘weight-inclusive’ doctor?
My wife went to see her primary care doctor a month ago to get help with her migraines. After doing a thorough workup and blood panel, the doctor took my wife down the hall to the office’s “wellness director” and was told she will be put on 1200 calorie a day diet. Huh? How will […]
The Power of Sharing
As I wrote my book Man Up to Eating Disorders, I knew the purpose of the book was to share my story and normalize the experience for other men and boys struggling with body image, self-esteem, fat shaming and eating disorders. But I also did it just for me. I needed to lay out all […]
Why do I need to be vulnerable?
“If I tell my wife how I really feel, she’ll just get all upset,” one of my male patients said to me. “I’d rather just be quiet and deal with it on my own.” This is not an atypical comment I hear from men or women who come to see me for eating disorders treatment. […]
A better form of prevention
Obesity. It’s been described as a tsunami, an epidemic, a curse, and a scourge. Shoot, it might just have a role in the next Godzilla movie the way it’s demonized. And who do we blame for the obesity onslaught [hah, found another adverb!]? Mostly we blame the individual for putting the Twinkie in their mouth, […]
Effects of bullying
What is the relationship between bullying and issues such as eating disorders, depression, and anxiety? There are many children that experience bullying throughout their years in school. What kind of effect does this have? How could we possibly raise awareness about this issue? We find out every few months that there has been another school […]
Hating on the hater
In today’s celebrity section of the newspaper, there is a brewing smackdown thanks to Joan Rivers and her verbal fat attack on actress Lena Dunham. Rivers is no stranger to controversial comments from her perch on Fashion Police or her reality TV show Joan Knows Best. She’s called out plenty of women for their dress, […]
Don’t just eat mindfully, live mindfully!
I often discuss eating mindfully with my patients, but the other day as I was completing a meditation centered around mindful breathing I thought why just stop at eating mindfully? Why not live mindfully too? Honestly eating mindfully is quite difficult if you aren’t living mindfully as well. First of all let’s take a look […]